Have you ever assumed that you would see plenty of red flags before your spouse asked for a divorce? Maybe you assumed there would be months of disagreements and arguments. Maybe you thought the divorce would be triggered by something like infidelity, leaving no doubt in your mind that it was coming. 

There is a school of thought that says that it’s surprising that anyone would feel utterly shocked at a divorce filing — as if it came out of the blue. How could they feel like they were in a happy, loving marriage one minute and then find out their spouse really wanted to leave? 

And yet it does happen. Divorce catches people off guard. There are those who find themselves stumbling into a divorce completely unprepared because they never thought this would happen to them. 

It could be as simple as missing the signs. Maybe they were there all along, but the person was afraid of change and wouldn’t acknowledge them. The signs just went right over their head. Friends who are shocked when they say they never saw any red flags are simply amazed because they feel that there had to be some indication that the marriage was faltering. (They’re probably right, but that doesn’t mean someone will always pick up on them.)

If you have no idea that divorce is coming and you are unprepared, it can make things more hectic. You can make mistakes. You may overlook key points. With any legal case, it’s important to be prepared and to know what options and rights you have. That’s why you have to constantly watch for the “red flags” that divorce is coming so that you’re ready when they make themselves apparent.