Parents who are splitting up must ensure that they have everything set up for the children. This isn’t always easy because of the emotions that come with a split. Preparing for the negotiations that come with establishing the parenting plan is important.
One of the most important things to remember when you’re getting ready for the negotiations is that the focus has to be on the children. You can’t focus on how decisions affect you or your ex. Every decision that’s made has to be based on what’s best for the kids.
Don’t dwell on the past
You can’t bring up the past when you’re negotiating child custody terms. The only exception to this is if there’s something in the past that’s a threat to the children now, such as abuse. It’s best for both parents to leave their emotions behind when they’re trying to come up with a parenting plan.
Communication standards matter
Part of being a successful parenting team is being able to communicate even when things get difficult. You and your ex need to set standards for communication. This should include speaking directly to each other and never trying to use the children as messengers.
The sooner you get the parenting plan in order, the sooner everyone can adjust to what’s going to be the new normal. This provides the stability that the children need so they can thrive. All decisions you make should be based on what’s needed now. Modifications are possible as those needs change, so be sure that you consider that as you negotiate.